Why Are Commitments So Hard to Uphold?



You gave your word, put down a deposit, signed an agreement, and even committed to invest more time, effort, and additional funds. You did all that only to find out—just a few days later—that this new effort requires too much of you. All too quickly, “life gets in the way”… and then your commitment goes out the window.

Whatever your new commitment was- a gym program, a study class, a diet plan, a social club, or a new career focus-it required additional time.

You believed that a new program would get you new results. And that is a fair assumption, but
…what’s missing here is the fact that replacing old behaviors with new ones isn’t as simple as pushing a button. It takes much more work to make a commitment stick.

First, let’s understand why it’s not so easy to successfully introduce a change.

You have built a daily routine over the years. You are so used to your routine, you could probably do it with your eyes closed. But even though going through your normal routine is easy, it doesn’t always get you the results you want.

Whenever you want to change your routine, you are no longer performing in automatic. Instead, you’re paying close attention to your actions. It’s the difference between driving a car on automatic and learning how to drive with a stick shift. In the latter, you need to pay attention to every turn, making sure you’re in the right gear. It’s not easy and it takes a lot of focus.

Similarly, when you’re introducing a change to your routine, it requires more effort to focus on the goal and to consistently choose actions that advance the goal. That can be really challenging.

So why is it hard to make that change? One psychological model that explains the difficulty has to do with your conscious and subconscious mind.

When you’re operating in “automatic”, your subconscious mind is in control. When your subconscious mind is aligned with your conscious mind, taking action seems effortless.

But when there is no alignment, trying to take action just ends up sapping your energy.

Oftentimes when you make a commitment, you first engage your conscious mind. However, your subconscious mind hasn’t yet bought into supporting your quest. So instead of an easy change, years of deeply held beliefs and assumptions are ready to challenge your commitment.

Normally, people don’t know how to powerfully interact with their subconscious. You neither learn it in school nor from your parents. Many people don’t even think it can be done.

But when you go about aligning your subconscious mind with your conscious goals, then keeping your commitment becomes much easier.

If you’re interested in exploring how to align your subconscious mind with your conscious goals, you’ll want to work with a professional. That way, you can more quickly and easily make the consistent progress you really want.

Give our office a call at 732-385-1522 and ask us about how the Core Energy Coaching(TM) process can help you fulfill the commitments you’ve been attempting to uphold without much success.