Most of us like things just the way they are. Not necessarily because it’s better, only because we are used to it. There is comfort in knowing how people around you behave and how things tend to fall into place. Assuming an unpredictable outcome often brings anxiety.
So, why would you even consider to introduce something new or even embrace change?
It is important to note that change is evolution. If we do not evolve we cease to grow and expand.
So, if you are absolutely sure that growth is not necessary for your survival, you can stop reading here.
When do human beings contemplate that it’s time to start something new?
- When an outside force destroys something that was functioning (reality)
- When they realize that something is not serving its purpose effectively (logic)
- When they get a new idea (intuition)
- When they feel too frustrated at the current conditions and they can’t take it any longer (emotion)
Do you remember the last time you made a New Year Resolution?
Many people set new goals every year. The New Year time-mark serves as a logical point of time to re-assess how things where going, and consider starting to take new actions to get better results. Obviously, logic is at play.
Now, be honest with yourself. When you made your latest New Year Resolution, how long did it stick?
As I am writing these thoughts, it is the early January. Already, I hear people around me dismissing their own chances of accomplishing what they thought might be possible, just a few weeks ago.
Published statistics portray a very sober picture. Only a few of us use the New Year Resolution as a true force that leads to embracing a change.
Embracing a Change
Let’s take a look at when a change really takes hold.
We realized that logic is a key part of making a New Year Resolution. But, it is not enough.
What then is the missing element?
Usually, human beings adapt to outside events such as:
experiencing a major health threat, responding to natural disasters, or
going through changes in the workforce such as promotion, demotion or even layoffs.
Get that, deciding to make a change is completely different from adapting to an outside force that changes our environment.
That human resiliency that you exhibit when reality knocks on your door, is there for you to use on demand.
You can harness that inner strength only if you learn to engage your emotions.
Many career oriented individuals, and maybe you are one of them, believe that you should keep emotions as far as possible from decision-making.
As soon as you begin to act differently, you’ll experience distractions from people you know, from people you don’t know, and even from advertisements.
Use What You Already Got
Emotions are powerful and ignoring them robs you of their power. Pain evokes resistance. And that is exactly what you need to build new habits.
In order for you to take new actions (or avoid others)on a consistent basis, you better start to learn to use your whole brain: the logical and the emotional foundation.
So, if you made a resolution, get some leverage NOW. Outline to yourself:
What was so painful that you wanted to take a different route? ( focus on the emotional pain)
What level of pain would you feel if you continue to act the way you did?
So as much as creating a new habit could be daunting, compare it to the pain you per-identified.
And if you hold back on making a change because you think that it’s not the perfect time, answer the above questions to get you focus on a hell of a reason to change.
And if you lined up a good reason, and you need someone to help you sustain a momentum and overcome challenges you’ll meet on the way, work with a coach you can connect with. Check if any of the Certified Coaches at The Round Well could be matched with you.